Effectively Judging “Other” Kinds
of Yoga:
Five Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
You are reading this because, you, like me, think it is
important to make sure everyone knows how to effectively judge, evaluate, and
reject other types of yoga and yoga practitioners.
Why judge? Because being judgmental, on the positive side of
righteousness, and morally superior is very important to your long-term journey
as a yogi. I am pretty sure that is what Patanjali meant when he described
discernment in the Yoga Sutras. Further, “yoga” essentially means “union.” As
the ego is 50% of the ego-and-soul union, it is important that you are sure to
carefully tend and nurture the ego. You see, our culture may not sufficiently
feed the development of the ego. We must do more.
To help, I have reviewed many posts that judge, evaluate, and exact
moral superiority on “other” kinds of yoga. Then, I distilled what I learned
into the FAQ format (i.e., frequently asked question). Once you read through
this, you can write an effective, judgmental, and morally superior post of your
own.
First, you are welcome!!!!
Second, Please write! My only hope is that I can see more
judgmental yoga posts in my news feed on Facebook. It does so much for our
community. So please, please write.
FAQ #1
Is my type of yoga
“good” enough to judge others? (or) Is my yoga, the “right” yoga?
Take a deep breath and relax. When you are
judging others, it does not matter what kind of yoga you practice. No matter
the nature of your practice, you can still be morally righteous. When judging
yoga, there is this one rule. All kinds of yogis can judge all other kinds
of yoga. Do not worry if your yoga is too Western, Eastern, hot, cold,
yin, yang, vinyasa-ish, hatha-ish, restorative, fast, slow, loud, quiet, powerful,
or spiritual. The focus is not on your practice. It is on how
other types of yoga are wrong. Remember that.
FAQ #2
What if I don’t
really practice?
Great question. Because the focus of judging is external, your own practice is irrelevant. Keep your eye on what others are doing and how you feel about it. Do not worry about your own moral, physical, relational, or spiritual development. In fact, an internal focus could get you off track and might weaken your need to judge. Keep your focus outward.
Great question. Because the focus of judging is external, your own practice is irrelevant. Keep your eye on what others are doing and how you feel about it. Do not worry about your own moral, physical, relational, or spiritual development. In fact, an internal focus could get you off track and might weaken your need to judge. Keep your focus outward.
FAQ #3
What if I don’t’ have
a solid sense of the research or yoga philosophy?
That is okay too. If you look up the definition of judging, you will see that it is about forming an opinion. This is good news. In order to judge another kind of yoga, you do not need to educate yourself about the type of yoga or yoga in general. You simply need to form an opinion. Once you have formed an opinion, you have all that you need to judge. In fact, if you educate yourself, you take a risk. Like looking internally or focusing on your own practice, gaining knowledge of, and familiarity with others and their yoga experiences may reduce your desire to judge. Accordingly, I advise against it.
That is okay too. If you look up the definition of judging, you will see that it is about forming an opinion. This is good news. In order to judge another kind of yoga, you do not need to educate yourself about the type of yoga or yoga in general. You simply need to form an opinion. Once you have formed an opinion, you have all that you need to judge. In fact, if you educate yourself, you take a risk. Like looking internally or focusing on your own practice, gaining knowledge of, and familiarity with others and their yoga experiences may reduce your desire to judge. Accordingly, I advise against it.
FAQ #4
What if my judgments
and moral superiority are hurtful of others?
It is interesting you ask this. If you are asking this question you might have lost focus. Judgment is about “correction” and not connection. That is, we do not judge others to feel closer to them, have empathy, or worry about hurting them. We judge others to help correct their ways. You see, we have formed an opinion and have judged them. That is all that matters. If it hurts a little, or even a lot, it is okay- because correcting them is the most important thing. Connection, relationship, loving-kindness all get in the way of judgment and moral superiority. Avoid these things.
It is interesting you ask this. If you are asking this question you might have lost focus. Judgment is about “correction” and not connection. That is, we do not judge others to feel closer to them, have empathy, or worry about hurting them. We judge others to help correct their ways. You see, we have formed an opinion and have judged them. That is all that matters. If it hurts a little, or even a lot, it is okay- because correcting them is the most important thing. Connection, relationship, loving-kindness all get in the way of judgment and moral superiority. Avoid these things.
FAQ #5
What if my judgments
don’t help others change or grow?
You have so many good questions. However, like
the previous question, this question shows you are off focus. As a morally superior
judge, you should not be too interested in helping others grow. In fact, there
is a substantial body of behavioral research that suggests that harsh judgment of others
does not, in fact, help them grow. Psychologists have discovered many other factors
such as warm supportive relationships, connection, collaboration, and empathy
effectively support behavioral change and growth. Appropriately, judgment is not about
helping others change, it is about having the right opinion. Do not get
confused. It is important to stay on track.
So that is it. Do not worry about your own yoga, your own
practice, your knowledge of yoga in general or of the type of yoga which you
are judging, if you hurt others, or if you are helping others grow. Form an
opinion, focus externally, and judge. It is the RIGHT thing to do.
There is one final note, do not worry about what your
missing when you spend your mental resources, time, and emotions being upset
about what the other yogis are doing. You are only missing chances to grow,
connect with others, learn, and develop your own practice.
Who needs that shit? Not you.
Namaste,
Catherine Cook-Cottone,
The Yoga Bag
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