Monday, September 15, 2014

108 Days of Meditation to the New Year- Guidelines


Here are the guidelines 108 Days of Meditation to the New Year:

          1. In the next 108 days you commit to meditating for 5 minutes or more a day (9/14/14).

          2. You can meditate in ANY WAY (e.g., sitting, walking, etc…)

          3. If you miss a day- (a) add a minute(s) to days for the rest of the week or (b) do a secret act of kindness for someone else. It will get your karma back. Rules are- you can’t tell anyone you did it- it is a secret act of kindness- solely for the good of it.

I am excited! I will send updates etc.. on Facebook. Also, will post on my blog The Yoga Bag and on the Facebook group page Meditation in the Bag.

Last, we are working on a workshop that includes cool things like yoga and mala beads….I will keep you posted!

Happy mindfulness!
Catherine

How to Meditate: 5 Simple Steps


·      (1) Find a comfortable spot. This can be seated or walking.

·      (2) Choose a timer or meditation timing app.

·      (3) Decide if you would like to meditate on the three Dharma   Seals (i.e., impermanence, suffering, and not-self) or on an object.

o   If you select meditation on an object- set your timer and begin to focus on your object (e.g., candle, breath, mantra). As you notice your attention waver, with loving-kindness, bring it back to your object.

o   If you select the Dharma Seals, set your timer and notice your thoughts. One, observe that all things arise and pass away. Two, notice that life is inevitably painful and our reaction to life’s challenges is what adds suffering to pain. Three, notice that all of your thoughts, reactions, and ruminations are not you- you are more than that. You are the sum total of your choices.

·      (4) Ultimately you will notice that two things happen: (a) there are mental events (stimuli that enter through your cognitive self- thoughts, memories, and old feelings) and sense impressions (stimuli that enter through your senses- physiological self); and (b) your brain automatically labels stimuli (mental events and sense impressions) as pleasant, neutral or unpleasant.

·      (5) You then have a choice. You can return to presence and focus on your object or the Dharma Seals- or you can continue with the rumination (i.e., thinking, sensing, judging, thinking, sensing, judging, thinking, sensing, judging---- suffering).

That is essentially it.

There are more details and methods- of course.

Meditation is an opportunity to learn your reactions, limitations, and tendencies. Knowledge is power. So, meditation is empowering. Awareness opens the door to choice and practice gives us strength. Awareness, choice, and strength lead to growth.

Happy meditation and growth : ),

Catherine Cook-Cottone
The Yoga Bag



Thursday, June 19, 2014

The 12 Embodied Practices of the Yogic and Mindful Self (Cook-Cottone, 2014)

The 12 Embodied Practices of the Yogic and Mindful Self 
Cook-Cottone, 2014   

These are the 12 practices detailed in my forthcoming book, "Mindfulness and Yoga for Self-Regulation: A  Primer for Mental Health Professionals." I have compiled all of the practices detailed in no less than 30 books. These- are- the- things- if you do these 12 things- you will experience attunement and contentment. I have the word of many mindful and yogic scholars and practitioners as well as a bunch of  established and emerging research. I am so excited about this list. If you'd like to re-print please cite. The book should be out 2015. 


Practice 1: Be Mindfully Aware

Practice 2: Honor Your Breath and Physical Experience

Practice 3: Live in Inquiry

Practice 4: Accept Impermanence

Practice 5: Cultivate Non-attachment 

Practice 6: Discern What is Not Self

Practice 7: Allow What Is with Non-judgement

Practice 8: Prioritize Self-Care

Practice 9: Be of Your Values

Practice 10:  Observe Compassion for Self and Others

Practice 11: Maintain Equanimity


Practice 12: Cultivate Joy and Loving Kindness


Figure 2.1 Twelve Embodied Practices of the Yogic and Mindful Self



To Cite words and image:

Cook-Cottone, C. P. (in press). Mindfulness and Yoga for Self-Regulation: A Primer for Mental Health Professionals. New York, NY: Springer. 

Monday, June 16, 2014

Trauma Informed Mind Body Yoga: TIMBo Training- Foundations

Trauma Informed Mind Body Yoga:
TIMBo Training- Foundations

I just finished the Foundations section of the TIMBo Training. http://yogahope.org/timbo-program/

What is TIMBo?

This is what is says on their web page:

“The Trauma Informed Mind Body (TIMBo) program is designed to help women understand how and why their bodies feel the way they do, notice their emotion sensations non-judgmentally, and helps them take effective action in regulating the difficult sensations, making them less likely to turn to drugs, alcohol and destructive behaviors to cope.
The TIMBo program addresses three primary objectives:
1. Give women simple, effective and accessible tools to utilize as active coping strategies for self-regulation. These tools can be used anywhere, anytime and take just minutes to utilize.
2. Help women gain awareness of their bodies and their body sensations. Emotional traumatic memory becomes lodged in the body and is triggered in an endless feedback loop that becomes chronic and debilitating in many.
3. The long-term objective is to help women renegotiate their self-belief through an awareness of their inner experience, and begin the process of transformation.
Women begin using self-regulation and mindfulness tools after the very first class and their sense of empowerment is felt right away. Each session builds on the previous one, giving women the opportunity to notice the effectiveness of these tools on the spot. Group sharing allows women to share their discoveries and validate one another in making empowering choices.
TIMBo has been designed with the specific needs of women in mind and more strategically addresses the effect that early childhood stress and trauma have on the body and the mind. The TIMBo program provides teachers with a structured curriculum of 16 sessions that leaves students with tools to address their habituated patterns and symptoms that lead to recidivism, relapse, and entrapment in the cycle of trauma, addiction, incarceration and other health risk behaviors.”

This is what it meant for me-

The Process:

"Between stimulus and response there is a space.
In that space is our
power to choose our response.
In our response lies our growth and our
freedom."
Viktor Frankl

That- is my favorite quote. Why? Because I lived in the existence between stimulus and response for ages. No. let me say that clearly. I was only stimulus response. It has taken me years to cultivate the space between the two-- and yoga has been a huge part of that shift.

On my mat, I have been able to construct the space between what was going on in two places: (a) my head, and (b) my body--- and then the critical space between those two places and my choices. Both my mind and body were experienced as stressful and bad. There was little positive input- unless there was a substance, self-destructive behavior, or avoidance involved and then- well then- things were fine- 

-and they were not fine, they were not okay and I was not okay.

Yeah, if you asked me I would say, “I am fine, good really, yeah good. Its just that……” What followed-- it is just that … [fill in the blank- with what everyone else was doing to make me miserable].  And IF ONLY, if only, if only THEY would…. “Yeah, I am fine.”

Enter yoga. And I start to get it. I start to get it that there are more options. There is something else, something more than stimulus and reaction. Something more than stimulus- substance/symptoms- reaction.

What was it?

Presence. Beautiful, huge, fragile, strong, crazy presence.

I practiced yoga. I practiced presence.

Nan Herron, a dear friend and pursuer of all that is good and world changing, told me about TIMBo. She said, “This stuff is great. You will love it. This is the thing. You need…. NO, REALLY.. YOU NEED TO DO THIS.” So, I did.

And, so I did.

I am sitting here in the airport. Raw, renewed, deconstructed, and reconstructed, and wiped clear, from four days of pure, distilled presence.

Potent shit. Raw with truth and abundant with unconditional positive regard. A crucible for change- a human crucible for change.

I don’t want to share too much, so much that I dilute it.

Know that if you choose to go there- to your true self- you will leave transformed. Transformed into you as you were intended to be- no cookie cutter, no pretense, no expectations-

-just you and your true nature.

Zuri’s Story (See this blog for more about Zuri and who she is)

Zuri is sitting on her bed. It’s June. School is practically over.

This is bad.

Summer is bad. No structure. No teachers. Just Jasmine’s cancer and Zuri’s mom- and for her mom- drinking is worse in the summer- way worse. And for Zuri’s brother- Eric- risks, real risks, are worse in the summer- way worse.

When the sun starts shining, Zuri’s worries escalate. Her shoulders move toward her ears. Her jaw clenches. Her breath gets shallow. Her back tightens. For as long as she can remember, she curls into her defensive self because you never really know what will happen.

She is also sad because there won’t be any yoga. Miss Amanda takes the summer off and goes to yoga training and sees her family. Zuri will miss her horribly. Miss Amanda and Yoga have taught her these three things that no one seems to know in her family (see http://yogahope.org/timbo-program/ for more on these three things):

1.  Active coping tools for self-regulation.
2. Awareness of her body and body sensations.
3. A belief in herself as a strong and competent young woman-- a self-belief through an awareness of her inner experience.
When Zuri goes to yoga, she is reminded to be present and breathe. She practices connections with Miss Amanda and the other kids who are practicing. When Zuri goes to yoga she feels what she is feeling- the physical, the emotional, and the longing- pure and clear for what it is—and then she breathes into it- not meeting it with drugs, clinging to boys, or drinking—she meets her longing with breath and acceptance. And the miracle of that- is a growing belief in herself as someone who can handle stuff- she can handle her fears about her mom’s drinking and driving, her brother’s drug use and scary behavior- she can handle missing Miss Amanda- she doesn’t like it- no. Shit no. But she is strong enough.

Laying on her bed with her journal- she starts to sketch out some plans for the summer. She was thinking that maybe she might ask the minister at the church if she could teach a little yoga at the church to the kids in day camp. Miss Amanda has been telling her that she would be an inspiring teacher, maybe it would be okay if she shared what she knows with some of the little ones at camp?

She suddenly felt safe. It was the strangest thing. When she started thinking about summer, about yoga, and Miss Amanda- and not being connected all summer, she was scared. As she thought about teaching yoga, it felt like Miss Amanda’s sureness and support moved from outside of her heart, right into her chest. The yoga shifted too. It felt like it wasn’t something at school, or after school, but something in her body- something that was part of her that she could share. Ah- this feels good!

Image from http://nataliefishwick.co.uk/some-faqs/ 

And so it would be. Zuri’s summer job was to teach yoga to the beautiful little souls at summer school. And with a heart full of yoga and hope she will share these three things
(see http://yogahope.org/timbo-program/ for more on these three things):

1.  Active coping tools for self-regulation.
2. Awareness of body and body sensations.
3. A belief in the self as a strong and competent being-- a self-belief through an awareness of inner experience.
There are going to be some happy kids at camp this summer….

Namaste,

Catherine Cook-Cottone
http://www.catherinecookcottone.com

If you want to learn more about TIMBo, YogaHope, and the founder- Sue Jones click here: http://yogahope.org/about/yogahopes-creation/




* Note* It has been a while since I posted. It will be this way for some time (Until early Fall, 2014). I have an approaching deadline for my embodied self-regulation book. It is my plan to post once a month or so, until the book is submitted. OR If feel really compelled to post- which is the case today. Send me lots of book writing energy!

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Three Ways to Show your Power, your Shakti, on Mother's Day

Three Ways to Show your Power, your Shakti, on Mother's Day

A long time ago, maybe years ago now, I asked my mom why she did not often tell me that she loved me or was proud of me. We were in the car, she was driving. Her hands were on the steering wheel and her eyes on the road. I turned down the radio to hear her.

She said, “I didn’t think it mattered what I thought. You do so many big, important things. I didn’t think it mattered what I thought of them.”

Pause.

Mom kept driving. Hands on the steering wheel. Eyes on the road, radio too quiet to hear. The sounds of cars on the road, the sound of our car cutting through the air, tires on the road, engine moving under the hood. Our breath and silence.

“It matters mom. It matters a lot.”

And so went the car and mom said, “Okay.”

I was preparing for Yoga class tomorrow, Mother’s Day. I searched the terms mother, yoga, and deity, searching for the yogic incarnation of motherhood within the traditional of yoga.

Shakti emerged.

It is said that Shakti is the feminine spirit, the embodiment of mother. It means power, or empower. This is just part of it. There is much to Shakti and to the understanding of Shakti. There are many variations across traditions.

It was those two words that struck me, power and empower.

That is what Mother’s Day is. It is a day to remember your power. To remember those that need you to say, “I love you,” and  “I see you.”

You, me, us, we are much more powerful than we think we are. In this blog, I write of Zuri, a little girl whose mother does not know her power. With this lack, Zuri is lost.

When we do not embrace our power, it does not fade, it does not go away. I believe it is misdirected, processed in a way it was not intended. My mother did not know her power and in her not saying, I was hurting. It was more than an absence of power. It left a vacuum. I knew, in my heart, she loved me. Still, the effect was there.

It is a responsibility that none of us asked for- but it is ours none-the-less, with children or not- we have our roles as the holder of Shakti-- to use it, to form it, to manifest it for the growth and development of others. It is a responsibility that comes with birth.

Think about people in your life. The people you touch. Do you see your power? Do you see the possibility of empowerment? And have you manifested, brought forth, given, seen, and expressed this power? Or is there a vacuum? Unspoken truths?

Do these three things- in honor of Mother’s Day, of Shakti, of your power-- do these three things:

1.     Step back, breathe, and see, really see, the people in your life. Acknowledge that these beings need you to show your love to them.
2.     Give voice to what you see. Tell them that you see their trying. Tell them that you see their kindness. Tell them that you see their heartache. Tell them.
3.     Nurture and Love. Do this a lot. There are many ways to do this.  One of my favorites is to kiss the ones you love on the forehead and whisper, “I love you.” Yeah, do that.

Happy Mother’s Day to all of you powerful people. Know your power and use it well!

Namaste,

Catherine Cook-Cottone

theyogabag


Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Letter Template for You- Use Your Voice- #bingbackourgirls


I have written a letter and emailed it to  info@nigeria.gov.ng Attention: President Goodluck Ebele Azikiwe Jonathan. Please use this letter as a template and email the Nigerian Government. I attempted to log onto the government page to send the letter that way- the page is shut down.

Use your voice- you matter.

May 7, 2014

Dear President Goodluck Ebele Azikiwe Jonathan:

I am writing to express my deep concern regarding the abduction and mistreatment of more than 200 girls by the terrorist group Boko Haram from the Government Secondary School in Chibok, Nigeria. News reports indicate that Boko Haram has threatened to sell the abducted girls as slaves and that some of these girls may have already been sold into child marriages.

According to a letter written by the 20 women U. S. Senators on May 6, 2014 to President Barack Obama, these girls were targeted by Boko Haram simply because they wanted to go to school and pursue knowledge. It is confusing to me that Boko Haram finds the pursuit of knowledge dangerous and harmful, yet readily sells girls to slavery and child marriages seeing this as right action.

I plead with you to continue and intensify your actions to find these girls and return them to safety. I look forward to a world in which girls, boys, and all people and pursue knowledge without fear.

Sincerely,

Catherine Cook-Cottone, Ph.D.

Associate Professor
Licensed Psychologist
Certified/Registered Yoga Instructor

http://www.nigeria.gov.ng/index.php

Letter from Women Senators regarding Abduction of over 200 Girls in Nigeria

Letter from Women Senators regarding Abduction of over 200 Girls in Nigeria

Thank You to:

Barabra A. Mikulski and
Susan M. Collins